Can You Have Sex on Your Period? Let’s Talk About It
Ever typed “is it okay to have sex during your period?” into Google at 11pm? You’re not alone - and spoiler: yes, it’s totally okay. But since period sex still lives in the awkward shadows of hush-hush convos and outdated myths, let’s bring it into the light (or at least onto your screen).
So… is period sex safe?
For most people, yes! Having sex on your period is medically safe and totally normal. But a few things to keep in mind:
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You can still get pregnant. Yep, even during your period - especially if your cycle is short or irregular. Sperm can hang around for up to 5 days, so if you ovulate soon after your bleed, the stars could align.
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You can still catch or pass STIs. Blood can carry infections like HIV and hepatitis, so barrier protection (hello, condoms!) is still your BFF.
TL;DR: Red doesn’t mean “stop” - just take the usual precautions.
What about the mess?
Look, it’s not always a scene from a crime drama - but yes, it can get a bit messy depending on your flow and the type of sex you’re having.
A few mess-minimising tips:
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Dark towel = MVP.
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Shower sex = no cleanup required (except maybe some slippery manoeuvres).
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Mid-period > heavy day one, if you’re easing into it.
But honestly? Blood is normal. Periods are normal. There’s zero shame in a little (or a lot of) red on the sheets.
Perks of period sex (yes, there are some)
Let’s talk benefits - because Mother Nature might be on your side here.
💦 Built-in lubrication
Your period doubles as natural lube, which can make things feel smoother and more comfortable. One less bottle on the bedside table.
😌 Cramp relief
Orgasms release endorphins (your body’s natural painkillers), which can ease those annoying cramps. Sex as a form of pain relief? Yes, please.
🩸 Possibly shorter periods
Thanks to uterine contractions during orgasms, you might speed up the shedding process, which could mean a slightly shorter bleed. Is it scientifically guaranteed? No. But we’ll take any silver lining.
How to talk to your partner about it
If the thought of bringing it up feels awkward, try something simple and non-confrontational like:
“Hey, I’ve been thinking about trying period sex - how would you feel about that?”
If they’re hesitant, that’s okay. Ask why - maybe it’s just unfamiliar territory, or they’ve never had a positive convo around periods before. It’s all about creating space for honest, judgment-free chats.
If they’re keen? Amazing. Talk about what you both feel comfortable with - towel on the bed, lights off, shower setting, or slow and gentle vibes. No pressure, just good communication.
Not into it? That’s 100% fine too.
Just because it’s safe and possibly orgasm-enhancing doesn’t mean you have to be into it. You don’t owe anyone sex, on your period or otherwise. Whether you prefer to Netflix and heat-pack or try a different kind of intimacy during that time, it’s totally your call.
In conclusion:
Sex on your period = totally normal. Not gross. Not shameful. Not off-limits (unless you want it to be). And hey - if anyone needs a reminder that your body and your choices are valid all month long, send them this article and a friendly wave from your empowered hoo-ha.
